How can i become an Alpha male and attract the ladies?

Mon, Nov 17, 2008

Psychology

Eduardo M asked:

women are naturally attracted to an alpha male.

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JOURNEY Says:
November 19th, 2008 at 6:18 pm

You are who you are. Be yourself and don’t be too concerned with the “alpha males” of the world. I’m sure that they have their share of problems. The grass always looks greener on the other side……..

Danni Says:
November 22nd, 2008 at 5:38 pm

Dress smart, have a sense humours, be educated, show your feeling and be caring..Its not necessarily always about your face and body..it your personality that count..So start to be a personality pleasant type a guy..aight..good luck

jrod2210 Says:
November 23rd, 2008 at 4:09 pm

use the AXE deorant, or the TAG

Brian J. Says:
November 23rd, 2008 at 4:59 pm

You will receive many answers from females saying things like “be yourself” and “a woman is attracted to men who are natural”.

It is all lies. Women have always been, and will always be, attracted to alpha males. In western society this is defined as rich or with high status.

Just look at Gloria Steinhem, the editor of Ms. magazine. Who did she marry? She didn’t marry an honest and sensitive garbage man. She married a high-status and rich male.

Feminism nonsense is everywhere.

nicemanfromindia Says:
November 25th, 2008 at 3:52 am

Either you are an alpha male or you aren’t. Again, you would be an alpha male for a Caucasian female in the land of the pygmies but the pygmy female would like her alpha male to shoot you down with a poisoned arrow! So the term is relative.
Be the best that you can be and you will be an alpha male for some female near you. Honest.

Jenny Says:
November 28th, 2008 at 4:59 am

Women are attracted to many things, only one of which is the alpha male.

If you wish to be alpha, be arrogant and knock other people down. Make sure that you stay in the spotlight as a success, and only give to others when it elevates your own agenda. Criticize the things you know are wrong, and pretend that you stand for something. Use active listening skills.

It’s strategy… not necessarily wrong, but if it isn’t you, then the ladies will be attracted to what you are not.

Live well~

aquad1234 Says:
November 30th, 2008 at 10:45 am

you are who you are, be comfortable and confident with yourself, learn the art of conversation (without it becoming a line of bull), learn to dance- women love that and it’s fun, be respectful, have christian values. Besides, you don’t need all the ladies, just the right lady.

ohioan_femme Says:
November 30th, 2008 at 3:01 pm

Ok, I am a woman and I never thought that women are naturally attracted to alpha males. We are not wolves, you know.

jonmcn49 Says:
December 1st, 2008 at 4:20 pm

Do you think all the attractive ladies get with alpha males? Somebody marries beta males. If you do not acquire status and resources, then you can be a good father prospect. That is also a female mating strategy. At least you could have prospects in career opportunities. It is not all or nothing; mix your approach.

Maxtor Says:
December 4th, 2008 at 6:07 pm

No matter what women claim, virtually across the board, women are attracted to alpha males. It is a behavoir programmed into them. Women will claim otherwise. at the times women make these claims, they think “alpha male” and do not feel any attraction, so they say they are not attracted, and are being honest to their emotions at the time they are responding. When women actually see these men, they begin to feel attraction; women experience attraction differently from men. So, at the time when it matters, women are attracted to alpha males.

Be your best self. That is far better than trying to ‘just be yourself’. Push yourself slightly out of your comfort zone whenever possible. Go to a mall that neither you nor your friends shop at, put your coat on backwards, and walk around for half an hour to an hour. After about half an hour, you will not feel weird, and it will start to become fun.
This will help greatly in reducing social anxiety. I have personally done this. If you need to start off with something that is easier to push yourself into, wear something that you think looks bad on you, or different colored socks, then different shoes on each foot, and gradually increase each time as your comfort level increases. Just keep pushing yourself slightly outside your comfort level.

When talking with others, many of us make slightly degrading ‘jokes’ about ourselves. This is a bad habit that you should get rid of, and is one of the largest signs of a beta-male. Though you do not realize it, it is a way of lowering yourself. When dealing with people of low social status, bring them up to your level (take interest in what they are saying), rather than take yourself down to their level. When dealing with people of higher status, simply avoid making these jokes (or catch yourself doing it and remind yourself not to do it again).
Realize that this significant indicator of a beta male is done entirely by that person, and thus is an act of willing submission. To not do this is neither misleading nor changing who you are; rather, it is asserting that you respect yourself (which you have just proven by saying you want to become an alpha male).

Perhaps the best advice is to watch other alpha males and see how they act - what they say, their body language, etc. If you are friends (or even casual acquantancies) with an alpha male, ask them about something relevant to the alpha male attitude. I recently asked an alpha male how he responds to someone who is very rude to him - his answer was to never talk to that person again. He appreciated that I sought his advice, and we are better friends for it, and I have benefited from that advice.
Once you start picking up some alpha male behaviors, more start to fall into place.

No real alpha male will attempt to challenge your desire to be alpha. If someone attempts this, it means that the person cannot compete with you to win the respect of others, and has to resort to an attempt at a direct confrontation. Remember, anyone who attempts to challenge or discourage your attempts to improve yourself is beta.

whats.the.deal Says:
December 5th, 2008 at 3:36 pm

So, you’re another Alpha male wanna b. In reality, what you really want is to feed your ego by having women attracted to you. If you’re having problems attracting females, it isn’t because you’re not Alpha.

Sir W Says:
December 6th, 2008 at 2:55 pm

If you do not have the look, the smart, the wit and the tendency to be likable, then you are not gonna be one, regardless what you try.

One thing though, try to find a job in the boot camp for delinquent girls. They will eat you alive but the question is do you have what they want?

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