So what can you do to make sure others know you are a fantastic person? You need to understand how to use non-verbal communication to flirt successfully. The eyes are the window to the soul and they are also an excellent starting point for learning how to flirt. Have you ever glanced around a room and then suddenly a stranger catches your gaze? What is it about you that caught and held someone’s attention, even if only momentarily? People like people who are attracted to them. Flirting is a skill that harnesses the many different types of gaze.

The routine of making eye contact, holding it, breaking it, and then engaging again is one of the most basic yet effective methods in your flirting arsenal. This lets the person know you want to flirt with them, and you’ll learn how to determine if they are interested from the reaction they give. You can also take this to the next level to let them know you are having ‘impure’ thoughts about them! Tell them you are looking to ‘devour’ them by holding their gaze even longer and breaking only to glance up and down their body.

Eye contact is obviously crucial, but should be used along with other kinds of body language. Positioning your body in such a manner that shows you are open to communication is crucial to the art of flirting. Flirting is a combination of being able to read their signals whilst also revealing your intentions. There’s no need to think of flirting as something which other people do. You just need to be taught the key skills and how to practice them. Then go out and have some fun!

The Alpha Male System by John Alexander is a great book. I stumbled across it about 3 years ago and frantically read it from cover to cover. And then I read it again. I was looking for a way to improve my confidence with women and this book seemed to have it all, so I downloaded it straight away.

It contains a wealth of information on how to be successful with women; how to get the girl, win her over and impress her with your prowess. Most of it is common sense. Same with a lot of things, but we do need to be told these things if only as a refresher. However, some of the information in the guide was counter-intuitive to my thinking, and I had to change the way I thought and dealt with people to really reap the benefits.

It’s all about creating and placing a value on yourself, and the first stage of that journey starts within. How can you expect others (particularly women) to find you interesting and attractive if you don’t even enjoy and value your own company? Why would a girl want to spend intimate time with you if you do not show any value? I’m not talking monetary value either. In fact, one of the most shocking parts of the guide was that if you are trying to impress a girl then DO NOT shower her with gifts and expensive meals, shows, nights out. Doing this will only place a lesser value on yourself, making the girl think you NEED to do that to win her affections. There’s a lot of truth in the saying that people always want what they can’t have. Think about it.

So does the alpha male system work? Absolutely. But it only works if you implement and take action on the advice it gives. That may sound obvious but too many people these days buy a book, expecting it to change their lives, and do not act on the information within. Even worse, they buy the book and let it sit on the shelf or computer, not even bothering to read it. I draw an analogy with the hundreds of money making schemes you can find on the internet. People buy a product, read it through, but don’t actually take action. Then they wonder why they haven’t made $millions on the internet.

Take action people. LEARN how to become an alpha male from whatever source you choose, and then TAKE ACTION. I promise you that your life will change for the better.

My goal was to find the things that they all agreed on.

The results were surprising, because the issues the women had the strongest opinions about were ones that most guys would never think of.

1. YOUR TEETH. Bad teeth are “just gross” said one blonde bombshell, to the enthusiastic agreement of the others.

So in order to not have your teeth immediately disqualify you, keep them brushed twice a day, flossing at least once. And if they’re rotten or badly stained, see your dentist ASAP.

However, don’t go crazy with the teeth whitener. “No one wants to kiss Chiclet Mouth,” added the blonde.

2. YOUR HANDS. Women notice right off the bat if your hands are covered with dirt or grease.

“If you work with your hands,” said one woman, “that’s not the first thing a woman should notice about you.”

So auto mechanics, construction workers, and other blue collar types, listen up.

“It’s not what a person does,” explained another chick. “It’s just about taking care of yourself. If you can’t even wash your hands, what does that say about you?”

3. YOUR CLOTHES. When you’re wearing jeans, leave the tennis shoes at home.

“I am a believer that athletic gear is for exercise,” said a part-time model in her mid-20s. “Some boys wear only tennis shoes and that’s just annoying. It shows immaturity.”

Good shoes instead are loafers or boots.

Try to be neat without being anal. “You should not look sloppy,” said the blonde, “but don’t look so put together that you appear obsessive-compulsive.”

And, be an individual, agreed the women. If you’ve got that one shirt that only you love, you should still wear it, even if it is somewhat “uncool.” For example, take a hawaiian shirt with a flamingo on it. Some guy who absolutely loves it can wear that shirt.

So the bottom is that a few guys can indeed pull off wearing the tennis shoes.

Sound confusing? It isn’t once you realize that the simple test is this: Are you wearing clothes that display your core personality?

As one woman explained it, “You should be comfortable with what you’re wearing and like what you’re wearing, because women will pick up on that.”

So in other words, the perfect style for you comes down to personal preferences and your individual sense of style. You can’t make one rule for everything, except just be your genuine self.